Tamzin Outhwaite shares story about 17-year-old son Flo coming out as transgender in 2024

Initial Distress, Present Acceptance

Tamzin Outhwaite, the 55-year-old actress, has publicly shared her family's experience with her eldest child, Flo, who is 17 and transgender. Outhwaite described the initial period following Flo coming out as a "very long journey" marked by personal distress and a sense of disbelief. She has openly stated that her immediate thought upon hearing the news was, "That's ludicrous," and that she wishes she could alter her initial reaction. This period of difficulty involved family therapy for both Outhwaite and Flo.

A Shift in Perspective

The actress now expresses happiness that Flo is "thriving" and comfortable with his identity. Outhwaite acknowledges a significant shift from her initial struggle, stating, "I’m just so happy that he’s happy." This newfound contentment contrasts with her earlier feelings, where she admitted it was a "very distressing time" and that she initially had a different expectation for her children, having had a son and daughter rather than two daughters.

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Youngest Child's Insight

Her younger daughter, Marnie, now 12, is highlighted as a particularly insightful member of the family. From a young age, Marnie has referred to Flo as her "brother," demonstrating an early and consistent understanding of his identity. Outhwaite has praised Marnie's awareness, noting that she has been supportive "from pretty much day one."

School and Wider Support

Outhwaite has also commented on the importance of acceptance at Flo's school, noting that the environment and fellow students have been understanding. She has used her platform to speak out against anti-trans hate, a stance she feels strongly about as a parent. The actress has also mentioned that connecting with other families and professionals helped her feel less alone during the early stages of Flo's transition.

Background and Reflection

Tamzin Outhwaite, known for her role as Mel Owen in the BBC soap 'EastEnders', has two children, Flo and Marnie, with her ex-husband, actor Tom Ellis. Flo came out as transgender approximately seven years ago, when he was around 11 years old. Outhwaite's reflections on this period, shared across various interviews and podcasts like 'Parenting Hell', reveal a personal evolution from initial shock and regret over her reaction to a place of profound acceptance and pride in her son. She has also indicated her father has come to fully support Flo's identity.

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